Discretion

August 29, 2012

This comes first on my list. I have touched on this virtue when I wrote the prologue but I think it has to be emphasized some more.

Discretion is knowing what to say, when to say it, and how to say it. This reminds me of a local network’s campaign for responsible use of social media. Their tag line goes like this: “Think before you click.”

Coming into terms with the fact that a relationship just could not work is hard. And painful. It was painful for me because I’ve always wanted my first relationship to be my last. But just because I got hurt doesn’t mean I’m entitled to hurt other people too. Our emotions can easily bring out the worst in us only if we allow it to. Jesus is Lord, even over our emotions.

With this I say, hold your tongue (and your fingers from hitting the keyboard) until you’ve checked your motives. Ephesians 4:29 says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen (NIV).

This is difficult. For quite a number of times, I found myself typing something and deleting it because it just doesn’t sound right.

Just because it’s difficult doesn’t mean it’s not doable.

Yes, this is hard. But I know that this IS possible, not because we can make ourselves do it but because “it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose (Philippians 2:13, NIV).”

Some more Lessons from a Beautiful Mess:

Prologue
Walls Down
Fighting Pain
My Love Story

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