Of Defaults and Timely Revelations

Yesterday was another day in God’s classroom.

Now, I’m documenting my take-homes.

1. When you forget, remember.

The beauty of forgetting something is that you will eventually get to that point where you would realize that there is something to remember.

Relationships suffer when we forget – how our parents have gone through all those years of loving and caring and providing for us, how we became friends with our friends and how they have been there for us the whole time, how God brought us (ourselves and the people around us) together to experience how it is to love and be loved in return, how God sent His only Son on the cross to die on our behalf just so He can demonstrate how much He loves us.

Our sinful nature’s default is to keep a record of wrongs. Love does the opposite. And so we do not count the times when our parents failed to understand or provide or be there for us, we do not take note of how many times our friends have wronged us, and we do not count the prayers that we think have been left unanswered.

Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.”

2. The Fountain of Unlimited Strength

Here’s another default of the sinful nature (most of it my default as well): We resort to foolishness when we are out of strength. Some blame people, some blame circumstances, some blame themselves, some blame God. Some people resort to vices or just decide to give in to temptation. Some stop worshiping and praying.

Nehemiah 8:10 “…for the joy of the LORD is your strength.”

This verse has become one of the most common of encouragements there is. Yesterday, I realized there is more to this verse.

The secret to unlimited strength is to choose to please Him in times of weakness. Being transformed into His likeness means that our default should go from breaking His heart to putting a smile in His face and pleasing Him in every way every single day.

His power is made perfect in our weakness. His joy is our strength.

3. When the need for change arises

Proverbs 27:17 “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” 

People will always have expectations – our parents, our friends, the people we work with, even people who just see our lives from afar.

And here’s what I realized, shoving the man-pleasing spirit aside, God allows for relationships to reveal what we lack so we can come to Him and ask Him for the grace to change and be a better person for the sake of our family, our friends, and for those who don’t know Him just yet.

I realized that when people expect me to understand them more or to care for them more or to just love them more, it is God telling me that these are areas I have to build and harness with Him more.

When the need for change arises, it’s not people who want us to change. It is God doing His work in us – it is Him chiseling us, molding us into the person that He wants us to be.

4. The best place to be in

Running, quitting, shutting the world out – these are our defaults when things aren’t going our way, when we get hurt, when things become difficult.

But sometimes, we fail to see how God wants us to stay in that uncomfortable place so we could take a glimpse of His glory and His majesty.

And I would rather be uncomfortable, certain that I am at the center of His will and assured that some time within the process, I will be able to take a glimpse of Him, than be comfortable and yet fail to experience the glory of His grace.

Not Without a Fight

“Fight the good fight of faith…”
-1 Timothy 6:12

The hero gets the girl.

This idea has grown to be so attractive, it’s the central theme of more than half, if not every, movie – regardless of the genre.

Every man wants to be the hero that gets the girl of his dreams. Every girl dreams of being fought for and rescued by her hero. But here’s what often happens: we get too consumed with wanting to get to the end of the story, we fail to appreciate the beauty and the importance of what happens in between.

Men, getting the girl is not supposed to be easy. Getting things faster isn’t the way to go. If you expect or even allow yourself to get everything you want and need in a flick of a finger then you have decided to give up the title of a “hero” and are settling with being called a brat. You win the fight, you get the girl. Yes, you’ll get hurt along the way, you’ll get tired, you will have to drag yourself into the battlefield at times. But the essence of winning isn’t about getting the prize. It’s about the effort you’ve put into it that makes the difference.

Every pursuit is an act of faith.

Women, getting the girl is not supposed to be easy. Yes, it’s the same reminder. A hero who refuses to fight for you is not a hero just yet. If he’s a brat now, then chances are he’ll be a brat for most of the time that you are with him. Yes, waiting for the hero to come can be tiring, scary at times, and even emotionally unpleasant. But hang in there. You can either settle for momentary bliss (and then get hurt for the most time) or wait until your hero has fought every battle he needs to face to get to you. By then, he’d be strong enough to fight for the both of you when you’re finally together.

Waiting is an act of faith.

Make sure you don’t get into anything without a fight. We all have our battles. The good thing about it is that because we have Christ in us, we are no longer fighting to win. We are standing on the side of victory while we fight!